I have already written a blog post dedicated to advantages of being married. Have you read it? If not, you should do it after you finish reading this article. The marriage has loads of advantages. However, it is not free from negative sides and disadvantages. I am not married yet and I am not planning to marry someone in my near future. There is a multitude of different reasons that prevent me from getting married right now. Disadvantages of being married are very serious. If you plan to marry someone, you should keep in your mind that the marriage is not an easy union. First of all, it is a great responsibility. In the beginning, you will be responsible for your spouse. When you have some children, your responsibility will increase and you will be more stressed. If you are not ready for that, I do not suggest you get married.
Do not think that I want to discourage you from building this holy union? Be realistic and do not assume that the marriage is full of romantic emotions, passion, and love. These feelings diminish very soon after you start living together. I have prepared the list of disadvantages of being married. Study it carefully and make the right decision.
1) LOSS OF FREEDOM
This is the major disadvantage of being married. You will lose your freedom if you marry someone. There are loads of types of freedom. A married man loses all of them. You won’t be able to travel whenever and wherever you want on your own. Women are aware of sex travel and they know that their husbands will betray them while traveling. Do you think that you say your wife that you are going for a 6 months journey and she will agree with your decision? She will not agree with these plans. You will have two option. You need to take you wife and your children with yourself. or you should forget about traveling. Are you ready for that? Traveling with a wife and children is not the best thing for a man. Do you imagine yourself in Thailand with your family? You won’t need your wife in Thailand because there are already millions of gorgeous honey in that wonderful place. Today, you may be single, and therefore, you enjoy as many women as you want. You can change them every day. If you don’t come home at night, there is no one to meet you with a huge scandal. A single man is able to have his Playboy lifestyle. The marriage does not suit men who are very independent. Be ready to lose your freedom if you want to get married.
Loss of freedom is one of the main disadvantages of being married to both men and women.
2) A GREAT RESPONSIBILITY
Usually, I get stressed when to imagine the level of the responsibility a married man has in his life. When you are married, you will be responsible for your wife and children. I like playing with children but I don’t want to make any. I have loads of nephews, and time spent with them is really wonderful. However, I have never dreamt about having my own children. I think that there won’t be a day when I will change my mind. I know lots of people who had a very exciting life. They were traveling and enjoying their time. Now, when they have children, their life has completely changed. It is very boring and monotone now. They are not able to travel anymore. These people spend all their life in a flat, amongst four walls. I am not a fan of this lifestyle, and therefore, the marriage does not suit me. Be ready for being responsible. You should understand that you won’t be able to abandon your wife and children. You need to earn loads of money to buy everything necessary for your wife and babies. If you prefer a relaxed and easy lifestyle, the marriage is not for you. Your girlfriend may love you now but her emotions will change as soon as you have your first babies. You will be put on the second order when your first children appear on this earth. Your wife will spend all her time with children. The main purpose why she needs you now is because it is necessary to have someone who will feed her and her children. This is how our life is built. Your passion and love will die very soon.
Marriage is a great responsibility. There is nothing good in it. If you marry, you will merely complicate your life. I do not suggest you get married if you don’t want to care about anyone except yourself.
3) MORE STRESS
Marriage is full of stress. Your current relationship with your wife may be satisfactory but it won’t last too long. Dating and living together are very diverse things. When you live together, you will easily get tired of each other. Her body won’t appear sexy for you if you see it every day. You will not get aroused when she is naked if you see her every day. Some men have a great relationship while dating, and consequently, they assume that they will have the same attitude in the marriage. It is wrong. Get rid of these things. There are many types of women. Some of them are rigid bitches. I don’t wish you to marry such women. Rigid women is a hell for every man. She will never be satisfied with anything. These women demand more money that you are able to earn. Scandals will become your daily traditions. Do not get married with the intent to become happier. Your current life may be more stress-free. When you have your first children, your life will become more stressful. Oh my God, I just don’t want to imagine this boring and terrible life. Men and women were created for different purposes. Sometimes, I wonder how can a woman spend all her daily and night hours with her child. I think the reason of this love is her maternal instinct. Men do not have this instinct, and for that reason, we care less about children. Boys usually want to have a more adventurous life.
The marriage makes your life stressful. If you are very sensitive, you should choose yourself a good spouse. Otherwise, forget about getting married because it won’t add anything in your life except stress and depressions.
The marriage is not the union that is full of passion, sex, and love. Being married is not so awesome and wonderful as you assume. There is no doubt that some people are very happy in the marriage. Explore yourself better and decide whether you are ready to build this holy union or not.