It is believed that having high self-esteem is always very advantageous and beneficial. Everyone praises high self-esteem. There are hundreds or even thousands books that claim to give you high self-esteem. Psychologists, businessmen, entrepreneurs, politicians, and other people talk about benefits of high self-esteem. You were taught to believe that high self-esteem is a blessing. It seems like high self-esteem has no side effects. If you have a low self-esteem, you probably don't know anything negative about high self-esteem. Let me tell you something.
I have a very high self-esteem. Actually, I always had a very high self-estimation. Even when I was a child, I was already comparing myself to famous and great people. I always wanted to become someone influential, famous, and important. I cannot say that I have reached my goals. No, I am not enough famous, nor influential, nor important. I am still on my way to success. Everyone talks and write about the importance of having high self-esteem. Nobody thinks about its side effects. For this reason, I decided to write something unusual. Today, I am going to talk about the main disadvantages of having high self-esteem.
HIGH SELF-ESTEEM MAKES YOU CHRONICALLY DISSATISFIED
This is absolutely true. When you have high self-esteem, you won't be satisfied at all. No matter what level of success you achieve, you won't be glad about your success. You will still think that you deserve more. Even if you earn six-figure profits every month, you will pretend to have seven-figure money. If you work in a famous company, you won't be happy since you pretend to be a boss of the world's most famous corporation.
High self-esteem makes you chronically dissatisfied with your life. People with too high self-estimation are the unhappiest people in the world. Being a superhuman might make you satisfied. A person with a low self-estimation is much happier than confident people. Nonetheless, this does not mean that we should strive to have a low self-estimation. Low self-esteem has thousands of disadvantages. I am going to talk about them in another blog post.
TOO HIGH SELF-ESTIMATION MAKES YOU DEPRESSED
When you are not satisfied, you will become stressed and depressed. If you are not happy, you will be sad. You have one of two choices. You can be either joyful or sad. There isn't anything in a middle mental condition. As I have mentioned above, too high self-estimation makes you chronically dissatisfied with your life. When this prolonged displeasure continues for a long period of time, you will get a severe depression. This is an unavoidable result.
SUPERBLY HIGH SELF-ESTEEM CAN MAKE YOU LONELY
People with high self-estimation are very demanding to other people. A person with high self-esteem will never communicate or befriend someone whom he thinks to be unattractive, poor, bad-mannered, not stylish and elegant, and uneducated. People with high self-estimation always choose the best thing available in the world. These individuals have the same approach when it comes to friendship. To be honest, I have never had any male friends in my life. I had some female friends. However, I don't know why, but I don't have any male friends. Girls are beautiful and elegant. Also, they are more emotional and smarter than men. This might be the reason why I befriend women.
TOO HIGH SELF-ESTEEM IS BAD FOR SOCIAL ADAPTATION
It is cool if you live in a country that you love and respect. In this situation, you will also respect your society. Oppositely, if you think that people who surround you are fools, you will treat them with disrespect. Your attitude will cause a mutual disrespect. Also, when a person does not respect his society, he will never be motivated to adapt to that society. He will have no motivation to succeed in his environment. In this case, the person will have big problems with social adaptation. It is good if he manages to move to a place which he likes. Otherwise, a person with high self-estimation will isolate himself from his social environment.