Communication consists of different aspects. During conversations, we discuss different topics. Sometimes, we inquire about our talker's affairs, health, his well-being, and other things. Hence, communication is not all about talking regarding external stuff. From time to time, we ask different questions. Some of these questions are not private. Usually, these are the questions linked to a person's preferences, interests, hobbies, dreams, and different positions and opinions on diverse topics. Other questions concern a person's private life, intimate spheres of his life. Today, I will talk about this type of questions.
As you have already guessed from the title of the following article, I will talk about some ugly, ridiculous, inappropriate questions you should not ask a person while having a conversation with him. Not all people hate intimate questions. Some individuals love openly talking about own financial income, age, family, and other things. However, the majority of people around the globe do not like others to intrude their personal life. I am one of these individuals. Finally, let me describe some of the ugliest questions I really hate.
QUESTIONS ABOUT A PERSON'S AGE
I really hate when someone asks me about my age. When I was a teenager, I always tried to look older. Thus, at the age of 16, I was telling girls that I was 23 years old. Nowadays, when I am already mature, I want to look younger. To be honest, I always hated when someone was asking me about my age. Whether it was a man or a woman asking me about my age, I always tried to escape from this question. I do the same thing today. I don't like talking about my age. Finally, my age is not important at all.
It said that it is immoral, unethical, and inappropriate to ask a woman about her age. I absolutely agree with this. However, who said that it is appropriate to ask a man about his age!? Are men less sensitive than women!? I feel uncomfortable while someone asks me about my age. therefore, I know how a person will feel if I ask him about his age. For this reason, I never ask people about their age. If you want your conversationalist to feel well with you, don't ask about his age.
I have met different women in my life. The smartest among them were very delicate. Others were too intrusive. What I really hate is when a woman asks me about my family, my mother, my father, my brothers, sisters, and other members of my genus. This is my personal reaction to these types of questions. Others might tolerate these queries very well. I don't like these questions.
If you communicate with a person, his family should not concern you anyhow. This is not your business. If you start asking him about his family, parents, or relatives, and he feels uncomfortable, you should stop being intrusive. If you do not plan to marry a person, his mother, father, sisters, brothers, uncles, aunts, and other members of his family should not bother you at all. If you are interested in this thing, just suppress your interest and keep it in your mind. This is my opinion regarding family-related questions. When you become too intrusive with your ridiculous with your intrusive question, your interlocutor will try to avoid it. I always do it. When I feel that communication with a person does not satisfy me psychologically and mentally, I will just give it up. There are loads of good interlocutors in the world. If someone does not let you relax, you should just give up communicating with that individual.
AVOID MONEY QUESTIONS
Money questions are all questions related to a person's financial assets, wealth, and his commercial status. If you want to find out whether a person is rich or not, you don't need to ask him about his salary or income. It is quite easily understandable who is rich and who is poor. When someone talks about my money, my income, and other money-related stuff, I just make a conclusion that this person is stupid, and has no ethical nor cultural education. An intelligent person is always very delicate.
If you are not a gold-digger, you should have no business with people's money, companies, incomes, and salaries. These things should not concern you. Money-related questions will make you a very bad reputation among people.
QUESTIONS ABOUT A PERSON'S PAST
I thought that the above-mentioned three questions are the only questions I really hate. After thinking for about two minutes, I found that there is a fourth type of questions I dislike. Usually, I don't like to be asked about my past. Our past is gove. It is not always beautiful. Not all of our associations are good. Some of us had troubles, difficult situations, problems, and other negative things in our past. There is no a single person in this world whose life is absolutely perfect. We all have something we do not want people to remind us of.
I never ask people about their past. It is not important. Actually, I treat people for who they are now. They all could have different past. It is not important who they were ten years ago. We all change. The most important is who we are today.
Actually, these are the most intrusive and undesirable questions everyone should avoid while having a conversation with a person. I can comfortably talk about sex, my sexual fetishes, maybe my business plans, my food preferences, political and religious views, and other themes. At the same time, I hate when people try to intrude my private life by asking the above-mentioned questions. If you want to be a good friend, interlocutor, or anyone else where communication is necessary, avoid asking the above-specified questions.