When I look at my life, I see no people who are really close to me except my parents. My parents know almost everything about me. At least, they know what I do in my daily life. Beyond my family, there is no a single person who at knows at least 5% of information regarding me. I really love this fact. Whether it is my girlfriend or some guys in the gym I train, I always keep people away from me. I never let them approach me too close. As soon as a person breaks the distance between us, I give up all communication with that person.
There are many reasons why you should always keep people away from you. At least, you should not let them approach you too close. I mean there is no necessity to open up yourself to a person. If you enjoy communicating with a person, you should not necessarily tell him everything about yourself. At the same time, there are loads of folks who are too curious and intrusive. I really hate these types of personalities. I usually try to keep them far away from me. In this blog post, I will give you some good tips on how to keep people away from you.
DON'T ASK ANY PERSONAL QUESTIONS
When you ask a person some personal questions, this individual automatically thinks that he has a right to ask you the same questions. Thus, if you ask a person about his age, subconsciously, he is sure of his right to ask you about the same thing. When I say "Keep people away from you", I mean psychological distance. When a person knows too much about you, he is also too close to you. Hence, your personal information is a distance between you and other people.
I prefer not to ask any personal questions when I communicate with people. Here are some types of questions I never ask: age-related questions, money-questions, family-related questions, job-related questions, and many other topics that need to be treated with. Personal information destroys psychological distance between you and other people. To keep that distance steady, you should never ask any personal questions. Otherwise, when you forget about this, people will allow themselves ask any questions they wish.
DON'T TELL TOO MUCH ABOUT YOURSELF
I have already explained why it is not good to ask individual questions. When you ask personal questions, you will also get private questions. At the same time, there are loads of people who tell a lot about themselves without getting any questions. These are very open and communicative people. I am also a very communicative individual. However, I am very covert when it comes to some private fields of my life. I never tell people about my age, my address, my financial income, my family, and etc. Nowadays, you can communicate with people even without giving them your phone number. Hence, I do not even disclose my phone number. This is how I always keep away people from me. This covertness keeps the distance very constant. When you don't tell anything about you, automatically, people understand that you are not that type of open-people. Consequently, they will not even try to break the borders between them and you.
AVOID REGULAR MEETINGS
When you see a person every day, it feels like you are forced to see that face from day to day. Also, when people see you every day, they think that it is time to get closer to you. They start asking different questions, and etc. When you see a person regularly, you start treating him like more than a neighbor, colleague, business partner, and etc. This is a problem.
Nowadays, I am thinking of changing my gym. Those guys in my gym start treating me as their classmate. I really dislike it. Ok, we see each other three times a week. We spend nearly six hours a week together training in the gym. No wonder why attitudes start changing. I prefer people to keep distance between me and them. When relationships become too friendly and unofficial, I start avoiding them.
If you have an opportunity to meet particular people rarely, you should definitely do it. Regular meetings diminish the psychological distance between you and others.