Communication and friendship are good things. They make people closer. On the other hand, there are some occasions when communication won't bring anything but problems, a bad mood, and discontent. Displeasure after communicating with a wrong person is a common thing. Have you ever had a communication with a person who inspired and make you feel very comfortable? I bet you had. Also, have you ever a conversation with an individual who made you feel bored, desperate, and uncomfortable. I bet you had. You are inspired when you communicate with right people. On the opposite side, you feel negative when you have just talked to a wrong person. For this reason, it is necessary to identify people who you should and shouldn't communicate with. I am sure this blog post will help you do it.
Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) said, "The example of a good companion (who sits with you) in comparison with a bad one, is like that of the musk seller and the blacksmith's bellows (or furnace); from the first you would either buy musk or enjoy its good smell while the bellows would either burn your clothes or your house, or you get a bad nasty smell thereof."
A good companion is like a seller of musk. Even if you don't buy anything from him, you will feel very comfortable while with him. A good person has a good aura that impacts you in a good way. On the other hand, a wrong person is like a blacksmith's bellows (or furnace). It is even dangerous to approach him since he can damage your clothes or skin. Thus, it is always to mentally, psychologically, and physically dangerous to communicate with wrong people.
Usually, I communicate only with those people whom I am comfortable to be with. These people are well-educated, well-mannered, and sincere. However, from time to time, you will face a new person whom you don't know. During this period of time, you can wrongly spend your energy communicating with a wrong person. Some people continue communicating with wrong personalities without even understanding the harm they are bringing to themselves. For this reason, I decided to write a precise article to help you find out whom you should cut off from your communication.
PEOPLE WITH TOO DIFFERENT INTERESTS
You know that common interests make people closer. Even in marriage, love, passion, and sex die soon. However, only common interests save a couple from divorcing. You don't have to follow the same religion, culture, or traditions to be in a good relationship with a person. Common interests will suffice to make you good friends. When you and your interlocutor have common interests, you will always have common topics to discuss.
On the opposite side, when two individuals have very different interests it better for both of them to stay away from each other. Nothing good will happen in this type of communication.
If you see that you and a person you are communicating with have very different interests, you should give up the communication as soon as possible. You don't really need this type of conversations. since your interests are different, there is no need to talk to this person.
PEOPLE WITH OPPOSITE WORLDVIEWS AND VALUES
Our worldview shapes our values. When people have similar worldviews and values it will be very easy for them to build a comfortable and understanding relationship. These people will always have loads of topics to discuss.
On the other hand, people with different worldviews and values will o nothing but argue. These arguments will lead to disagreements, and consequently, psychological and physical conflicts are absolutely inevitable. It is always better to avoid conversations with someone who has opposite views and opinions on different subjects. A real communist and capitalist will never become friends or even good companions. Their discussion or communication will end up in a conflict.
Sometimes, people claim that opposite things are attracted to each other. In the world of physics, yes, they do. In psychology, only similar things are pulled together. Therefore, don't confuse your soul with physics. These are different things. Don't go out with wrong people who don't share your worldview and values.
PEOPLE WHO DON'T LISTEN TO YOU
It is a well-known fact that a good listener is the best interlocutor. If you don't listen to what a person says to you, then, you disrespect him. I really hate when a person turns his head away from you while you are talking to him. It is a big sign of disrespect and loathing. Having good communication requires good listening skills. You don't necessarily need to have a lot of knowledge and information to be a good talker. Listen to people, and everyone will enjoy your company.
If a person doesn't listen to your opinion, then, get rid of this companion as soon as possible. You don't really need these types of people in your life. Life is too short to spend it with such people. What is more, these people such your energy? You will always get exhausted after having a conversation with someone who doesn't care what you are talking about.
AVOID COMMUNICATING WITH ENVIERS
The first sin was committed because of envy. Devil was very envious of Adam. Envy made him disobey God. Thus, envy lives in hearts of everyone. Some of us can tame this bad quality. However, the majority of people are slaves of envious thoughts.
It is truly difficult to identify your envier. Someone would act like he is glad to hear about your success. In reality, this person might be your worst hidden enemy. You will need to be very perspicacious in order not to confuse an envier with your real friend. Hence, if you suspect somebody of being envious, you should stop communicating with that person as soon as possible. The evil eye is a very dangerous thing. Also, I don't recommend bragging about your triumphs to everyone. Keep your successes in secret.
PEOPLE WITH TOO DIFFERENT EDUCATIONAL LEVELS
Education changes us. When you become more educated and intellectual, you will recognize how difficult it is to communicate with people you were comfortable communicating in past. Education is everything. New knowledge changes your worldview, values, opinions, and life plans. A professor will never have an interesting conversation with a person who has not read even a book in last five years. Two nurses will have a better communication than a writer and a footballer. A person who belongs to an intellectual sphere will have good conversations with intelligent people. Intelligent people will never get well with marginals.
Don't communicate with someone whose education is much better or worse than yours. Nothing beneficial will come from this type of friendship. Search for people who are more similar to you. This is a key to finding perfect companions.