dildosEveryone that I know has some form of sexual pleasuring device, confidently most of them are dildos and then there are the more experimental friends who are open to trying new things and new ‘equipment’ as it were. I am happy and proud to say I fall in the latter group. I am the creative type, willing to give something a try at least once, and if it works, add it to the bag.

Some women like to do the cliché of having their ‘toy’ in the bedside table next to the bed, while this fine for the movies where every day seems to go smooth and seamless, this can never happen in our house.

My kids are into everything, whether they are being nosey or looking innocently for something else, I’m pretty sure they would find our toys in a heartbeat. Next thing we know they are running around the house trying to shock each other with the maximum vibrating setting. No thank you.

Ours are neatly and securely packed away in hygiene bags, and locked in a mafia looking silver briefcase with sanitizer, lube and disinfectant wipes. You can never be too clean. Of course, there are other treats and trinkets in there but that’s for another day another time.


Well first things first, for those who are new to the game of pleasure and toys, you might be wondering what is a dildo?

For a nerd explanation you can read about it here https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dildo, but essentially it is a piece of equipment made either from rubber, silicone or sometimes metal that comes in the shape of a long tube or penis looking instrument. Some are made to look chic and sophisticated, others are as real as it comes, veins, bumps and all. Fun.

So where do you go, how do you begin your ‘collection’ and can you do it without turning into a beetroot every time you walk into a shop. The simple answer is, yes. While I’d love to take each person by the hand and walk them through all the exciting times they are about to have, this is not possible. Boo. But I can help you get started.

When deciding on how big or which style you’d like you need to think about if you want it for the front or rear penetration, this will ultimately determine the size.

Once that’s sorted, think if it is going to be for solo operation or are you planning on bringing it into the bedroom-or wherever-with your partner?

Some versions come with all added features and mechanisms that make for easy single-use, such as rabbit fingers for tickling or ribbed sleeves for added friction.

For professional assistance and to see the latest toys you can check out how to choose a dildo here and see the exhilarating choices available on the market.

All of these are great and exciting and can be used individually or all together for a new year’s explosion extravaganza.

Lastly, consider the material. If you have an allergy be sure to read the label of ingredients before purchasing, otherwise choose which appeals to you most and work from there. For me, I say, the more the merrier, but that’s just me and I like a bit of freaky.


  • Mood enhancer. This goes without saying, we all know that having an orgasm leaves us smiling like a kid on their birthday, except we’re sweating. Ha. So for sure, your mood is going to be in the clouds. You start walking around and strutting your stuff, giving the ol’ wink and shotgun pose, brilliant.

  • Experimental. Going it alone can help you try new things if you are a bit shy to try in front of your partner, to begin with. You can see what works and doesn’t, and then blow him away when you experience it together.

  • Safe. For the most part, they are safer than going around and trying new things with a real penis if you aren’t in a monogamous relationship. As long as your cleanliness is up to speed, you should be safe from STD’s and other creepy crawlies.
  • Sensual stimulation. For couples who enjoy seeing their partner orgasm, this can be a great way to ensure they reach climate. And watching the pleasure build and then explode can send the partner over the edge.

There are so many reasons and benefits of using a dildo, and we should certainly chat about it over a large glass of wine-or two-but take a minute and read this article on all the fun ways to use and experience with a ‘sex toy.’

We all know that feeling we get when we try something a little taboo or risky for the first time, the adrenalin is pumping, your heart is racing at a hundred miles an hour and for some reason, you are shaking a bit. Not from cold but sheer elation.

I know when my husband and I first started adding in new things in the bedroom we were nervous, it was silly because we have been together and married going on 15 years, but it was out of our comfort zone. We had read books and tried the usual, and not so usual, positions and angles but this was a different story.

Why do you ask did we decide to add something new in the mix? Not because we were lacking in sexual desire or stimulation, no sir, but although we might enjoy eating rice, adding a new flavor can change things up in the menu. Same rice new spice. Fun times.

So whether you are a first-timer or an experienced toy user, either way, the outcome is usually that of collapsing on the bed in a heap of heavy breaths and exhausted smiles. Who wouldn’t want that feeling all the time?

Besides, it’s the best way to burn calories am I right?

Written by Bahtiyar
Bahtiyar is a businessman, Internet marketer, blogger, traveler, and the founder of one of the world's most popular blogs Bahtiyar World.